What awful news to hear about the loss of Kate Spade yesterday. She died by suicide, which is shocking and seems so incomprehensible.
Kate Spade has always been a brand that was a buzzword for me. It’s a joke between me and my mom how much it makes my eyes light up whenever I see the label. They started carrying some Kate Spade items at my local TJ Maxx, and it was like Christmas. I think what connects me so much to her brand is how empowering it is.
The resounding message she sent into the world was to live colorfully. Her products are bright, whimsical, and fun. The message on her labels and much of her gear was to be adventurous, confident, brave, and glamorous. For a quiet, insecure girl, her message made me feel like it was okay to live large, to choose happy, and to not concern myself with what other people think.
Such a message can make you assume things. I would assume Kate Spade lived a glorious, bright, exciting life, that she was wealthy and happy. She had an apparent “perfect” marriage and a teen daughter. She also sounded very generous, offering bags to interns as they started their job interviews, and supporting women’s economic growth with her foundation.
But the truth is, we can assume nothing. We know nothing of the battles going on in someone else’s mind.
I don’t have much of a post for you today. But I do hope you take to heart a few things, in honor of Kate Spade and her life:
Be glamorous, adventurous, brave, and don’t be afraid of negative thoughts or energy. It’s okay to live a life as large as you want it to be.
Everyone is going through something. And we’ll never fully understand someone else’s struggle. I think so many times in an effort to help solve a problem, I can minimize someone’s feelings about something going on in their lives. Or I can assume something and be unkind because of my assumptions, intentionally or unintentionally. I want to be intentional about being kind.
Please please please get help.
If you hurt, feel alone, and think that suicide is the only way, please know you have so many other options and so much life to live. You are not alone. Please call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-TALK (8255) or contact the Crisis Text Line by texting TALK to 741741.