This is a sponsored conversation written by me on behalf of PEOPLE®, Real Simple®, and Southern Living®. The opinions and text are all mine.
It’s taken a lot of convincing for me to embrace “me time” as a mom. I used to feel guilty about it, thinking I was putting undue responsibility on someone else to take care of my kids. I’d worry I should be spending the time with them, instead of by myself. I’d think I was being selfish.
But the longer I’m a mom, the more I see my need for a little “me time”! Without it, as I just keep going and going and going, I get irritable, anxious, and withdrawn. But when I get good, quality time to myself, I feel refreshed, relaxed, and re-energized. I’m just in a better place to be able to give to my kids.
So it’s something I prioritize now much more. But note the words “good” and “quality” going right along with “me time”. I’m also learning what actually helps me when I get time to myself.
Here’s what doesn’t:
- Time spent working instead of resting. It’s easy to jump on any free time I get and make it time to work – on the blog or various projects around the house. Sometimes it does help me to do some kind of mindless chore or activity. But unfortunately, forcing myself to focus frazzles me even more, instead of refreshing me.
- My phone (or laptop). Ugh. It’s so bad that my husband actually has to tell me to leave my phone far away from me when I rest. Studies show that blue light wires your brain, instead of letting it rest. Plus it’s a black hole for me, once I start browsing social media, reading posts, or watching videos. Tons of time has gone by, but I feel no more relaxed.
- Being close to my kids. As much as I love them and want to spend time with them, my time has to be my own. Because I just can’t turn off when I’m around them. I’m alert to their presence and their needs. I’m tense, avoiding fights and accidents. It’s much better for me to step away and do something on my own.
So what does work?
- Going outside. If I can get a few minutes, taking a walk or even just sitting in our backyard helps so much. It’s something about the fresh air, the flowers, and the warm weather (hello, summer!) that calms me down.
- A treat. Doing something special, something just for me, makes me feel valuable. Whereas when you’re doing everything for the little people in your life, you can feel kind of like an afterthought. A cup of vanilla tea, a pedicure, a bath, some chocolate – all of those things make me feel warm and fuzzy. Find what it is for you, and enjoy it!
- Reading. Getting lost in a story for a little while helps my brain turn off from the things it’s normally in tune with. And it informs me, helps my imagination stay strong, and is something perfectly peaceful and separate from what’s going on around me.
I think a lot of moms need a little more me time in the summer. I’m with my kids all the time, but over the summer, more moms are home with their littles. #SummerMeTime is important – don’t forget to take care of you, too!
Wherever you are this summer, whether at home or on vacation, one great way to read and get time to yourself, to find inspiration and experience life outside your own, is with PEOPLE, Real Simple and Southern Living magazines. Feeding into my fascination of all things royal, I grabbed a copy of PEOPLE Princess Diana: Twenty Years Later on a shopping trip to Kroger.
I love that I can read the articles at my own pace – whether it’s nap time, or the kids are playing quietly and I have just a minute or two to look at pictures. Plus it’s great to take along on the road trips we’re taking this summer, or when we’re hanging out at the park.
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Which magazine would you grab out of these options? Also, what helps you have quality “me time”?