Welcome to Coffee with New Moms! If you’re not already familiar, this is the part where we get to connect new moms to other beginner and some more experienced moms, to connect and encourage. I was so lucky to connect with Scarlett of scarlettballantyne.com, and am glad to have her share post with us. She falls under the category of more experienced mom, with two teen girls. She blogs about motherhood, but also her past careers as an interior designer, makeup artist, and business owner. Love this honest post about parenting and the holidays! And you will definitely appreciate this perspective on considering the safety of your kids in social media. Enjoy!
When your baby is little and your heart is swollen with pride, the first thing you want to do is share it with everyone. Social media lets you easily share photos, and tidbits and funny stories about your baby and all of their milestones.
When they get a little bit older, there are more funny things to share. A 15-second video clip on Instagram is an extra convenient way to share our kids with our loved ones, and humble-brag to the world. Some bloggers like Heather Armstrong have made a career of sharing their pregnancies and parenthood online.
But how much is too much when sharing on social media about your kids?
As a writer and the mother of teens, I have been sharing personal photos and more since I joined Facebook in 2007. While it is nice to look back and have many personal moments at my fingertips, now I am wary. I have also invited more than ‘friends’ into my life and on to my social media profiles as I have used social media to propel my business ventures forward. Becoming published means more friend requests, and more visits to my website. And with that comes more creepers too. Since we are all navigating this for the first time, there isn’t necessarily a right way or a wrong way to do it.
Just your own way.
Personally, I share a lot. I over-share. But I don’t share anything embarrassing or too personal about my children. They have their own social media accounts, and while I monitor them, their lives are their own to share. With younger kids, you are in control of what is shared. And only you can control what is right for you and your family. But it is something to carefully think about and consider.
When your kids are babies, they almost feel like they are part of you, just like they were when you were pregnant. As they get older and start expressing themselves more, you realize that they are their own beings. The come through you, but they are not your possessions. So the decisions you make about sharing their lives online, is one to be considered carefully. How will they feel about that later?
There is no template to follow, only your own instincts and personal barometer. I’ve been careful about some things, and more careless about others, simply because I didn’t know any better at the time.
When you know better, you do better.
That’s an Oprah quote, but very fitting.
It’s an evolving discussion.
I am Scarlett Ballantyne, a Blogger from White Rock, BC Canada – www.scarlettballantyne.com
Profile: Scarlett is an experienced makeup artist, stylist, interior designer, facilitator, and business owner. After her kids got to school-age, Scarlett embarked on a successful direct-sales career, and she continues to coach, develop and mentor mompreneurs while pursuing her passion for creating by freelancing as a makeup artist. Scarlett writes and curates all pretty things relating to beauty, entrepreneurship and motherhood on her blog, but her most important job is as a mother to two teenage girls and a wife to a very supportive husband.
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