It’s been a busy fall so far in our house. Between work, classes, ministry events, church, and time with other families, my hubby and I don’t always get a lot of time together. That’s why it’s even more important to really connect in the time we do have.
Date nights are vital, and we try to get them whenever we can. Our church has marrieds’ nights out, which are fun, and occasionally we grab a babysitter or go out when our families are in town. (Here are 50 date night ideas, if you’re interested!)
But sometimes you just have to make the most of those short chunks of time that pop up here and there. The key to anything you do together, the thing that will make you feel close, no matter how much time you have? Sneak in love languages wherever you can. No matter what it is you’re doing, if things like words of affirmation and physical touch are elements, you just feel more in tune with each other, and more able to handle the rush of life.
My hubby and I love to make plans for our next vacation or getaway, for example. We enjoy picking out the place, thinking about what kinds of activities we would do there, and when we could go. It’s something we can do together that doesn’t take up a lot of time, but makes us stop and focus on each other.
Here are some ways for you to connect with your spouse, even with limited time. I’ve divide up into different time amounts – apply what works best for you both!
- Pray together.
- Each of you share one positive thing or victory that happened during the day.
- Have a staring contest or a thumb war.
- Jam out to some music together.
- Split a treat – like a candy bar, piece of pie, or cookie.
- Tell a few things you love about each other.
- Take silly selfies together.
- Talk about your dreams – your goals, or what you dreamt about as you slept last night.
- Sign up or buy tickets for an event, like a festival, walkathon, or concert.
- Share a scripture or quote that has inspired you recently.
- Snuggle on the couch.
- Sip a beverage together and talk about your day.
- Go over plans for the week (or the rest of the week) together.
- Talk about what you would like to do on your next vacation or getaway.
- Share an article, news story, or post you’ve read recently that you enjoyed, or that made you think.
- Give each other foot or shoulder rubs.
- Play one round of a board game, like Scattergories, Headbands, Balderdash, etc.
- Go to a nearby park and play on the playground, or swing.
- Make lists together of things you like about each other, to be read when encouragement is needed.
- Teach the other spouse a skill that you know, and practice together – i.e. juggling, spinning a basketball on your finger, a tune on the piano, etc.
- Play a card game.
- Go out for a cup of coffee or tea, even if it’s through the drive-through.
- Drive to an overlook and check out the view.
- Take a walk.
- Talk about holiday gifts you’ll get for family members – or each other!
- Do a quick home improvement project together – put up a shelf, decorate your mantle, hang pictures, etc.
- Walk around a bookstore and find new interests or old favorites.
- Find some typical “first date questions” (like “What would your super power be?” or “If you could have lunch with anyone in history, who would it be?”) and hear each other’s answers.
- Do a short workout together.
- Check out a local farmer’s market.
- Watch an episode of a show you both enjoy.
- Read a book together.
- Browse a secondhand or antique store and pick out something fun for the other person.
- Take a hike.
- Bake some cookies, a pizza, or something quick and easy.
- Do a household chore you usually do alone, or pick a room to clean together.
- Drive the long way to run an errand or to your next activity, and talk, or listen to music together.
- Play a board game.
- Go for a bike ride.
- Have a quick picnic with appetizer-style foods, like cheese and crackers.
What makes you feel connected with your spouse, no matter how crazy life gets?